Gonorrhea: Causes Symptoms Treatment & Prevention

Gonorrhea is an STI caused by bacteria. It may not cause symptoms. Antibiotics can treat gonorrhea.

Gonorrhea, or “the clap,” is a sexually transmitted infection (STI). Often, gonorrhea doesn’t cause symptoms, especially in women. When present, symptoms differ based on your reproductive parts. See your healthcare provider if you think you’re infected. Prompt treatment with antibiotics can prevent long-term problems.

What is gonorrhea?

Gonorrhea is a common sexually transmitted infection (STI) that comes from a bacteria called Neisseria gonorrhoeae (N. gonorrhoeae). It’s also sometimes called “the clap” or “drip.” Sexually active people of any age can get gonorrhea and give it to their partners. You can also pass the infection to your baby during childbirth.

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People spread gonorrhea through sexual fluids, including vaginal fluid and semen. You can get gonorrhea from intercourse, anal sex, oral sex or sharing sex toys with an infected person.

Often, gonorrhea doesn’t cause symptoms and you don’t know you have it. This makes it easy to infect your partners accidentally. Getting tested for gonorrhea if you’re sexually active and using condoms or dental dams during sex can reduce your risk of infection.

If you believe you have gonorrhea, don’t wait to seek treatment. Untreated gonorrhea can cause long-term health complications. Your healthcare provider will prescribe antibiotics to clear up a gonorrhea infection.

Gonorrhea is the second most common STI caused by bacteria — just behind chlamydia. Close to 1 million new gonorrhea infections occur in the United States every year. About half of these infections occur in people ages 15 to 24.

Gonorrhea is a common sexually transmitted infection (STI) that comes from a bacteria called Neisseria gonorrhoeae (N. gonorrhoeae). It’s also sometimes called “the clap” or “drip.” Sexually active people of any age can get gonorrhea and give it to their partners. You can also pass the infection to your baby during childbirth.

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People spread gonorrhea through sexual fluids, including vaginal fluid and semen. You can get gonorrhea from intercourse, anal sex, oral sex or sharing sex toys with an infected person.

Often, gonorrhea doesn’t cause symptoms and you don’t know you have it. This makes it easy to infect your partners accidentally. Getting tested for gonorrhea if you’re sexually active and using condoms or dental dams during sex can reduce your risk of infection.

If you believe you have gonorrhea, don’t wait to seek treatment. Untreated gonorrhea can cause long-term health complications. Your healthcare provider will prescribe antibiotics to clear up a gonorrhea infection.

Gonorrhea is the second most common STI caused by bacteria — just behind chlamydia. Close to 1 million new gonorrhea infections occur in the United States every year. About half of these infections occur in people ages 15 to 24.

What are the symptoms of gonorrhea?

Gonorrhea often doesn’t cause symptoms. This is especially the case if you’re female. If you do experience symptoms, they’ll likely impact you differently based on if you have a vagina or penis.

Gonorrhea may cause symptoms like an unusual discharge and pain or burning when you peeGonorrhea symptoms vary depending on your reproductive anatomy.

Gonorrhea symptoms in women

Up to 50% of women won’t experience symptoms. This makes it easier to unknowingly pass the infection to your sexual partners. It’s essential to get tested for gonorrhea if you’re sexually active or if you believe you’ve had sexual relations with someone who has gonorrhea.

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When symptoms are present, they may include:

  • Unusual vaginal discharge (white or yellow).
  • Pain in your lower abdomen or pelvis.
  • Pain during sexual intercourse (dyspareunia).
  • Pain when you pee (dysuria).
  • Bleeding between periods.

Gonorrhea symptoms in men

Men are more likely to experience symptoms. Still, you may not notice signs of infection until several weeks after exposure, which means you can unknowingly infect partners.

Symptoms may include:

  • White, yellow or green discharge from your penis.
  • Pain or burning (possibly severe) when peeing.
  • Testicular pain and swollen testicles.

Gonorrhea symptoms in both sexes

Anyone can get gonorrhea infections in their throat (through oral sex) or rectum (through anal sex). These types of infections are less common than gonorrhea affecting your genitals.

Symptoms may include:

  • Throat: Itchy feeling, scratchiness, sore throat, trouble swallowing.
  • Anus: Itching, discharge, pain when you poop.

How long does it take to have symptoms of gonorrhea?

You may not have symptoms of gonorrhea for several weeks after the infection enters your body. Your immune system may not recognize it as an infection right away. On average, most people experience symptoms within two weeks (14 days).

What causes gonorrhea?

You get an infection when the bacteria that causes gonorrhea (N. gonorrhoeae) enters your body through sexual fluids, like semen or vaginal fluid — often through unprotected sex. The bacteria can enter your body through a penis, vagina, mouth or anus. Neither you nor your partner has to ejaculate (cum) to spread the bacteria. You can also spread gonorrhea by sharing sex toys that haven’t been washed or covered with a new condom.

You can get gonorrhea if you have sex with an infected person. This is the same, no matter your sex. Vaginal intercourse, anal sex, oral sex and sharing sex toys that haven’t been cleaned or protected with a condom can all expose you to the bacteria. Close genital-to-genital contact without penetration can expose you, too.

In women, the most common site of infection is your cervix. In men, infection usually starts in the urethra, the tube that carries pee out of your body.

What doesn’t cause gonorrhea?

Gonorrhea is contagious and spreads easily during sexual activity. Still, not all intimate acts or body fluid exchanges put you at risk for gonorrhea. You can’t get gonorrhea from:

  • Kissing, hugging or holding hands.
  • Sharing food, drinks or silverware.
  • Using a toilet after someone else.
  • Inhaling droplets after someone coughs or sneezes.

What are the risk factors for gonorrhea?

You’re at a greater risk of getting gonorrhea if you:

  • Are under 25.
  • Have a history of STIs.
  • Don’t use condoms or dental dams each time you have sex.
  • Are having sex with one or more partners who haven’t recently tested negative for gonorrhea.
  • Are a man who has sex with other men.

What happens if gonorrhea is left untreated?

Gonorrhea can cause serious complications when left untreated. If gonorrhea spreads throughout your body it can cause swollen and painful joints, liver inflammation, and heart valve and brain damage. Other complications can depend on your reproductive anatomy.

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Complications in women

In women, untreated gonorrhea can:

  • Spread to other reproductive organs, including your uterus and fallopian tubes, and cause pelvic inflammatory disease. PID can cause infertility and ectopic pregnancy.
  • Cause eye problems that lead to blindness in infants born to untreated birthing parents.

Complications in men

In men, untreated gonorrhea can cause:

  • Infertility.
  • Scars in your urethra.
  • Inflammation of your testicles.
  • Prostate pain and inflammation.

Gonorrhea often doesn’t cause symptoms. This is especially the case if you’re female. If you do experience symptoms, they’ll likely impact you differently based on if you have a vagina or penis.

Gonorrhea may cause symptoms like an unusual discharge and pain or burning when you peeGonorrhea symptoms vary depending on your reproductive anatomy.

Gonorrhea symptoms in women

Up to 50% of women won’t experience symptoms. This makes it easier to unknowingly pass the infection to your sexual partners. It’s essential to get tested for gonorrhea if you’re sexually active or if you believe you’ve had sexual relations with someone who has gonorrhea.

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When symptoms are present, they may include:

  • Unusual vaginal discharge (white or yellow).
  • Pain in your lower abdomen or pelvis.
  • Pain during sexual intercourse (dyspareunia).
  • Pain when you pee (dysuria).
  • Bleeding between periods.

Gonorrhea symptoms in men

Men are more likely to experience symptoms. Still, you may not notice signs of infection until several weeks after exposure, which means you can unknowingly infect partners.

Symptoms may include:

  • White, yellow or green discharge from your penis.
  • Pain or burning (possibly severe) when peeing.
  • Testicular pain and swollen testicles.

Gonorrhea symptoms in both sexes

Anyone can get gonorrhea infections in their throat (through oral sex) or rectum (through anal sex). These types of infections are less common than gonorrhea affecting your genitals.

Symptoms may include:

  • Throat: Itchy feeling, scratchiness, sore throat, trouble swallowing.
  • Anus: Itching, discharge, pain when you poop.

How long does it take to have symptoms of gonorrhea?

You may not have symptoms of gonorrhea for several weeks after the infection enters your body. Your immune system may not recognize it as an infection right away. On average, most people experience symptoms within two weeks (14 days).

What causes gonorrhea?

You get an infection when the bacteria that causes gonorrhea (N. gonorrhoeae) enters your body through sexual fluids, like semen or vaginal fluid — often through unprotected sex. The bacteria can enter your body through a penis, vagina, mouth or anus. Neither you nor your partner has to ejaculate (cum) to spread the bacteria. You can also spread gonorrhea by sharing sex toys that haven’t been washed or covered with a new condom.

You can get gonorrhea if you have sex with an infected person. This is the same, no matter your sex. Vaginal intercourse, anal sex, oral sex and sharing sex toys that haven’t been cleaned or protected with a condom can all expose you to the bacteria. Close genital-to-genital contact without penetration can expose you, too.

In women, the most common site of infection is your cervix. In men, infection usually starts in the urethra, the tube that carries pee out of your body.

What doesn’t cause gonorrhea?

Gonorrhea is contagious and spreads easily during sexual activity. Still, not all intimate acts or body fluid exchanges put you at risk for gonorrhea. You can’t get gonorrhea from:

  • Kissing, hugging or holding hands.
  • Sharing food, drinks or silverware.
  • Using a toilet after someone else.
  • Inhaling droplets after someone coughs or sneezes.

What are the risk factors for gonorrhea?

You’re at a greater risk of getting gonorrhea if you:

  • Are under 25.
  • Have a history of STIs.
  • Don’t use condoms or dental dams each time you have sex.
  • Are having sex with one or more partners who haven’t recently tested negative for gonorrhea.
  • Are a man who has sex with other men.

What happens if gonorrhea is left untreated?

Gonorrhea can cause serious complications when left untreated. If gonorrhea spreads throughout your body it can cause swollen and painful joints, liver inflammation, and heart valve and brain damage. Other complications can depend on your reproductive anatomy.

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Complications in women

In women, untreated gonorrhea can:

  • Spread to other reproductive organs, including your uterus and fallopian tubes, and cause pelvic inflammatory disease. PID can cause infertility and ectopic pregnancy.
  • Cause eye problems that lead to blindness in infants born to untreated birthing parents.

Complications in men

In men, untreated gonorrhea can cause:

  • Infertility.
  • Scars in your urethra.
  • Inflammation of your testicles.
  • Prostate pain and inflammation.

How is gonorrhea diagnosed?

Only a healthcare provider can tell you for sure if you have gonorrhea. First, they’ll ask you questions about your symptoms and sexual history. Then, your provider will collect a sample of your pee or bodily fluid to check it for the bacteria that causes gonorrhea.

Your provider may:

  • Perform a pelvic exam, taking a sample of fluid from your cervix for testing.
  • Take a urine sample for testing.
  • Swab your throat or rectum to collect fluid for testing.
  • Take a sample of fluid from your penis for testing.

Your provider will discuss which type of gonorrhea test is best in your situation and what kind of fluid sample that test requires. Your provider may also test you for chlamydia. These infections often occur together.

Only a healthcare provider can tell you for sure if you have gonorrhea. First, they’ll ask you questions about your symptoms and sexual history. Then, your provider will collect a sample of your pee or bodily fluid to check it for the bacteria that causes gonorrhea.

Your provider may:

  • Perform a pelvic exam, taking a sample of fluid from your cervix for testing.
  • Take a urine sample for testing.
  • Swab your throat or rectum to collect fluid for testing.
  • Take a sample of fluid from your penis for testing.

Your provider will discuss which type of gonorrhea test is best in your situation and what kind of fluid sample that test requires. Your provider may also test you for chlamydia. These infections often occur together.

How is gonorrhea treated?

You’ll need antibiotics to treat gonorrhea. Your partner(s) will need treatment, too.

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Treatment typically involves one shot (injection) of ceftriaxone. Your provider will determine your dosage based on your weight.

If you’re allergic to ceftriaxone, your healthcare provider may give you a shot of gentamicin plus azithromycin, which is an antibiotic you take orally (by mouth).

Your provider may prescribe additional medication, like doxycycline, to clear a co-infection with chlamydia. Follow your provider’s instructions on what medications to take and when.

It’s important to consider what treatment can and can’t do. Treatment can’t:

  • Undo any damage to your body that the infection may have caused before treatment.
  • Protect you from future gonorrhea infections.

It’s important to take preventive steps to protect yourself after treatment so you don’t get re-infected.

How long does treatment take?

Gonorrhea infection clears up within seven to 14 days after treatment with antibiotics. Some healthcare providers recommend a second gonorrhea test to make sure the infection is completely gone. You should avoid sex for the first seven days of treatment so you don’t spread the infection.

Can gonorrhea be cured?

Yes. Prompt treatment can cure gonorrhea. Take all medicine as your healthcare provider instructs, even if your symptoms improve and you start to feel better. Also, never take someone else’s medicine to treat your illness.

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Taking all antibiotics as prescribed is always important, but it’s especially important with gonorrhea. Gonorrhea is curable now, but it’s becoming more resistant to antibiotics. Some forms of gonorrhea that have developed a high level of antibiotic resistance are commonly referred to as “super gonorrhea.”

To ensure that gonorrhea remains curable, it’s more important than ever that everyone takes medications as prescribed — and that everyone takes steps to prevent infection.

You’ll need antibiotics to treat gonorrhea. Your partner(s) will need treatment, too.

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Treatment typically involves one shot (injection) of ceftriaxone. Your provider will determine your dosage based on your weight.

If you’re allergic to ceftriaxone, your healthcare provider may give you a shot of gentamicin plus azithromycin, which is an antibiotic you take orally (by mouth).

Your provider may prescribe additional medication, like doxycycline, to clear a co-infection with chlamydia. Follow your provider’s instructions on what medications to take and when.

It’s important to consider what treatment can and can’t do. Treatment can’t:

  • Undo any damage to your body that the infection may have caused before treatment.
  • Protect you from future gonorrhea infections.

It’s important to take preventive steps to protect yourself after treatment so you don’t get re-infected.

How long does treatment take?

Gonorrhea infection clears up within seven to 14 days after treatment with antibiotics. Some healthcare providers recommend a second gonorrhea test to make sure the infection is completely gone. You should avoid sex for the first seven days of treatment so you don’t spread the infection.

Can gonorrhea be cured?

Yes. Prompt treatment can cure gonorrhea. Take all medicine as your healthcare provider instructs, even if your symptoms improve and you start to feel better. Also, never take someone else’s medicine to treat your illness.

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Taking all antibiotics as prescribed is always important, but it’s especially important with gonorrhea. Gonorrhea is curable now, but it’s becoming more resistant to antibiotics. Some forms of gonorrhea that have developed a high level of antibiotic resistance are commonly referred to as “super gonorrhea.”

To ensure that gonorrhea remains curable, it’s more important than ever that everyone takes medications as prescribed — and that everyone takes steps to prevent infection.

What is the outlook for people with gonorrhea?

People who get prompt treatment and follow treatment instructions can resume their normal lives within one to two weeks. Untreated gonorrhea can cause several long-term health problems.

You can get gonorrhea more than once, so taking steps to avoid getting it and spreading it again is important. Ask your healthcare provider about getting regular STI tests. Additionally, you should practice safe sex like using condoms every time you have sex and being open with your sex partners about your sexual history.

What happens if I get gonorrhea during pregnancy?

Talk to your pregnancy care provider. You can spread the infection during delivery, which can cause health problems for your newborn. Babies born to parents with untreated gonorrhea are at risk for complications like low birth weight and blindness.

Your provider will help you get the right testing and treatment to keep you and your baby safe.

People who get prompt treatment and follow treatment instructions can resume their normal lives within one to two weeks. Untreated gonorrhea can cause several long-term health problems.

You can get gonorrhea more than once, so taking steps to avoid getting it and spreading it again is important. Ask your healthcare provider about getting regular STI tests. Additionally, you should practice safe sex like using condoms every time you have sex and being open with your sex partners about your sexual history.

What happens if I get gonorrhea during pregnancy?

Talk to your pregnancy care provider. You can spread the infection during delivery, which can cause health problems for your newborn. Babies born to parents with untreated gonorrhea are at risk for complications like low birth weight and blindness.

Your provider will help you get the right testing and treatment to keep you and your baby safe.

How can I prevent gonorrhea?

The only way to prevent gonorrhea is not to have sex. For many people, a more realistic goal is to reduce the risk of contracting and spreading gonorrhea. Take these steps to reduce your risk:

  • Always use a condom or dental dam during sex.
  • Don’t have sex with someone who has an active infection.
  • Don’t have sex with someone who has gonorrhea symptoms.
  • Limit sexual partners and communicate openly about sexual activities.
  • Get tested for gonorrhea and have your partners get tested, too.

There’s no perfect protection for gonorrhea if you’re sexually active. For instance, condoms can tear. Still, taking extra precautions during sex can greatly reduce your risk of infection.

How often should I get tested for gonorrhea?

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommends that all women who are sexually active and under 25 get tested for gonorrhea each year. Regardless of sex, you may need to get tested annually if you’re considered high risk for contracting gonorrhea. Your risk factors include your age and sexual activity. People who are in a long-term relationship with only one sex partner may not need testing as frequently. Talk to your healthcare provider about how often you should get tested based on your risk.

The only way to prevent gonorrhea is not to have sex. For many people, a more realistic goal is to reduce the risk of contracting and spreading gonorrhea. Take these steps to reduce your risk:

  • Always use a condom or dental dam during sex.
  • Don’t have sex with someone who has an active infection.
  • Don’t have sex with someone who has gonorrhea symptoms.
  • Limit sexual partners and communicate openly about sexual activities.
  • Get tested for gonorrhea and have your partners get tested, too.

There’s no perfect protection for gonorrhea if you’re sexually active. For instance, condoms can tear. Still, taking extra precautions during sex can greatly reduce your risk of infection.

How often should I get tested for gonorrhea?

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommends that all women who are sexually active and under 25 get tested for gonorrhea each year. Regardless of sex, you may need to get tested annually if you’re considered high risk for contracting gonorrhea. Your risk factors include your age and sexual activity. People who are in a long-term relationship with only one sex partner may not need testing as frequently. Talk to your healthcare provider about how often you should get tested based on your risk.

Can I have sex after gonorrhea treatment?

Your healthcare provider will give you instructions about when you can resume sex. Typically, you need to wait at least a week after you and your partner(s) finish all your medications before having sex.

How can I take care of myself?

If you’re sexually active and at a higher risk for gonorrhea, consider regular STI testing. Since many STIs, including gonorrhea, don’t cause symptoms, you could have an infection and pass it on to others without knowing it. Untreated gonorrhea can also cause complications that you can avoid with regular testing and prompt treatment.

What questions should I ask my healthcare provider?

If you have gonorrhea, questions you may want to ask include:

  • Would you recommend testing for chlamydia also?
  • How will I know if the infection has damaged my reproductive tract?
  • How can I be sure that the medication cleared my infection?
  • How should I inform my partner(s) that they may have gonorrhea?
  • How long have I been unknowingly spreading gonorrhea?
  • How can I avoid re-infection while still enjoying a healthy sex life?

Your healthcare provider will give you instructions about when you can resume sex. Typically, you need to wait at least a week after you and your partner(s) finish all your medications before having sex.

How can I take care of myself?

If you’re sexually active and at a higher risk for gonorrhea, consider regular STI testing. Since many STIs, including gonorrhea, don’t cause symptoms, you could have an infection and pass it on to others without knowing it. Untreated gonorrhea can also cause complications that you can avoid with regular testing and prompt treatment.

What questions should I ask my healthcare provider?

If you have gonorrhea, questions you may want to ask include:

  • Would you recommend testing for chlamydia also?
  • How will I know if the infection has damaged my reproductive tract?
  • How can I be sure that the medication cleared my infection?
  • How should I inform my partner(s) that they may have gonorrhea?
  • How long have I been unknowingly spreading gonorrhea?
  • How can I avoid re-infection while still enjoying a healthy sex life?

How long can you carry gonorrhea without knowing?

Gonorrhea often doesn’t cause symptoms, especially in women. You can have it for several weeks or months and not know.

How did I get gonorrhea if my partner doesn’t have it?

It’s possible that you can have gonorrhea, but your partner doesn’t. There are a few reasons that could happen. For example, they could have it unknowingly because the infection may not be causing symptoms. Or they could have a re-infection, which means a past infection wasn’t completely cured and came back.

Gonorrhea often doesn’t cause symptoms, especially in women. You can have it for several weeks or months and not know.

How did I get gonorrhea if my partner doesn’t have it?

It’s possible that you can have gonorrhea, but your partner doesn’t. There are a few reasons that could happen. For example, they could have it unknowingly because the infection may not be causing symptoms. Or they could have a re-infection, which means a past infection wasn’t completely cured and came back.

Gonorrhea is a very common STI, but it doesn’t mean it’s unavoidable. The best way to prevent gonorrhea is to get tested for the infection and use a condom or dental dam during any sexual activity. Safer sex is especially important with gonorrhea since it often doesn’t cause symptoms. If there’s a chance you’ve been exposed, don’t let embarrassment prevent you from scheduling a visit with your healthcare provider. Get tested immediately. Untreated gonorrhea can cause long-term damage to your health. You don’t have to face these complications, especially when a simple course of antibiotics can cure the infection.

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Though ancient rabbinic sources were fairly permissive with respect to sexual activity between husband and wife, some rabbis nevertheless consider the viewing of pornography as beyond the pale even when married couples use it as foreplay or as a way to improve their sex lives. Shmuley Boteach, a rabbi and author whose books include Kosher Sex, Kosher Lust and Kosher Adultery, has approved fellatio and sex toys, but draws the line at pornography. “They may be making love while watching the film, but in spirit and in mind they might as well be with the people in the video,” Kosher Sex says of couples that watch pornography together. Rabbi Jonathan Crane, writing in the Reform movement’s 2014 volume on sexuality, The Sacred Encounter, takes a different view. “It would seem that the tonal thrust of the textual tradition favors permitting, if not encouraging, Jews to produce and consume some forms of erotic expressions for the purpose of invigorating marital relations, with perhaps more freedom in the verbal than visual arena,” he writes. In recent years, the easy availability of online pornography has prompted serious alarm, particularly in the Orthodox world. Orthodox rabbis have issued stringent edicts about internet use, and a number of organizations have sprung up to help those battling porn addiction. GuardYourEyes, an Orthodox website endorsed by a number of prominent Orthodox (mostly ultra-Orthodox) rabbis, offers a wide range of tools for those battling addiction, including support groups, daily emails and filtering software. “I doubt that at any time in our history has there been as grave a threat to the morality of our people and to the stability of the Jewish family as the plague of addiction to internet pornography,” Abraham Twerski, a leading Orthodox rabbi and respected psychiatrist specializing in addiction, has written. Is sexting permitted? Sexting, the sending of sexually suggestive words or images by text message, has become a common practice among teenagers and has raised alarms among educators, religious and secular alike. However, the simple act of using words to sexually entice isn’t a forbidden act. Indeed, a famous Talmudic story suggests that at least one ancient Jewish rabbi talked erotically with his wife in bed prior to intercourse. In his podcast The Joy of Text, Orthodox Rabbi Dov Linzer suggests that sexting one’s spouse could actually be a good way to build “some sense of anticipation and excitement even before the couple moves to the bedroom.” One problem with sexting is that it can also be a means of carrying on non-physical sexual relationships outside of marriage, as evidenced by the notorious case of former Congressman Anthony Weiner. Experts have also raised concerns that sexting among teens leads to bullying and risky sexual behaviors, though some have challenged these assertions. There have also been cases in which sexted photos of underage girls have wound up online. Sexting that violates someone’s privacy or leads to bullying or risky behaviors would clearly run afoul of Jewish law and ethics. Does Judaism allow oral sex? Though some rabbis in the Talmud were highly restrictive about which sexual activities married couples could engage in, the prevailing view was that a man may do with his wife as he wishes provided he has her consent. This ruling is explicitly codified by Maimonides and by the 16th-century authority Moses Isserles (known as the Rema), whose commentary on the Shulchan Aruch is considered authoritative by Ashkenazi Jews. While some rabbinic authorities consider fellatio to run afoul of the prohibition on spilling seed, this is not universally accepted even within Orthodox circles. The Rema cites a leniency that even “unnatural” sex — a Talmudic term usually understood as referring to anal sex — is permitted even if it leads to ejaculation. From this specific allowance for non-procreative ejaculation, some extrapolate that any sexual act undertaken in the context of a permitted sexual relationship is acceptable even if it results in sperm not being used for reproductive purposes. 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